Booty Call Is Just That

I met Mark at work, we had good conversation at work for over a year. We could talk about anything never did we talk about the two of us hooking up, but it happened. We are now secret lovers, I don't want a relationship and neither does he, but I'm starting to feel bad about the fact that we can't be seen in public and I'm also starting to lose respect for myself because this is the first time i've ever done anything like this.That is be a after hours only chick. Neither of us have someone special in our life, but we work together and don't want the drama it could bring at work. I want to start going out in public even though I don't want a relationship,but he still do not want to. I'm in my late 30's and like being single for the first time after a marriage, then long term relationship, but this is eating at me. Help what sould I do.

Thanks,

L

L,

This is a normal thing that starts happening when a booty call starts out with both parties addressing it as just a booty call. Guys don't need to emotionally attached to be physical with someone. Sex is just that, sex. That is what it means to guys, it feels good and they like it. Guys can have sex with someone regularly and not get attached. Women are different, they tend to get attached emotionally after sleeping with someone regularly. Whether it be a lot or not, there is some emotional attachment for women there and that is exactly what is going on right now.

You have been sleeping with this man for a while now and you are starting to get attracted emotionally. You say you don't want a relationship but I think that if he wanted to take it to the next level then you wouldn't hesitate to.

For this guy, your relationship with him is strictly physical. It is the ideal relationship for all guys. He has a willing girl he can sleep with and not have to worry about relationships or emotions. He is getting his sexual gratification without strings.

Now, I'm not saying this relationship is a bad thing. By all means this is not a bad thing. I have a few friends like this :-) BUT, when you are in this type of relationship, an "after hours" relationship as you call it, then you need to not expect anything more than the after hours gratification that the relationship is based on. Once you start wanting more then you will start to get disappointed.

A booty call is just that, a booty call, don't expect anything more from it or else you will be disappointed.