Why Buy The Cow When The Milk Is Free?

I met someone at a bar. lol. Yea i know. Thats probably my first problem. Anyways. His name is corey. We have done the dirty 4 times now, well met up 4 times, and its really good. We dont talk to much during the week. Here and there. But i do most of the initiating. He has once. When we do talk its very short, but he does respond. SOMETIMES not though. I am currently not just talking to one guy, not really with anyone (commited). Just having fun. The thing is, is that i am starting to think of stupid things to say to him in text messages and asking to hang out more than usual. Its not working. I think the whole FUN thing is coming to an end. He doesn't necessarily respond either. Like i said. SOMETIMES. When we are together. We drink some beers down at his boat, ive met some of his family members and friends and when its just me and him we can talk and have long conversations. The conversations are about past relationships, what happend, life, him playing his guitar, pretty much a little bit of everything. Have sex, and fall asleep on the boat. He is a busy person and likes it that way. Understandable. Money is a virtue. He also has said that he is not wanting a relationship because of it. We've all heard that one. My question is... what do i do. My instincts tell me that he is not interested in me in any other way. Its not like he goes out of his way to hang out or message me. He acts very respectful when i am with him and we do have good times. Im the one that told him that its nice to have someone that i can do this with and not have drama or strings attatched. Great! I did it now! Dumb ass!!! lol. What do i do!!!! Is he interested? I think about what i would say or do to get a reaction or response and all i picture him doing is cutting me offf!!!! lol. I dont know. You tell me. Dont really know what to do or think.

K

K,

Well you pretty much nailed this one right on the head. This sounds like a classic, "He's just not THAT into you" situation. Of course he is welcoming when you call to hang out and come around because that means he doesn't have to do any of the work. I have friends like that right now. Girls I don't see any future with and that I don't call but when they call me to hang out I know what it's about and if it is convenient for me then we will hang out.

You kind of dug your own grave by telling him that you enjoyed the no strings attached relationship that you have with him. A lot of guys would love a relationship like that. You guys hang out, hook up and everyone is happy.

Now, if he is interested or not? Well why buy the cow when he is getting the milk for free? It sounds like he is interested in one thing and that is continuing the relationship you have right now. The no strings attached friends with benefits relationship. I am pretty sure that if you ask him where the relationship is going or what he wants out of it then it will only scare him away.

My advice is to have fun with him but don't expect too much out of him.