Booty Call Bad Boy

Mason,

I met a guy and we talked for a little bit and then we started hooking up. It was never a big deal, we would hang out at his place with his friends and then I would sleep there a couple nights a week. We have a lot of mutual friends but we never hang out no matter how many times I try to make plans with him. He is either staying home or has plans. I don't want to be pushy and bug him all the time but I am starting to like the guy and I just want to hang out with him more. We talk almost everyday but never hang out. He does have a lot of friends though and is always doing stuff so I don't know what to think. He calls me when he is done with his plans which usually involves drinking and then I'll come over and we will hang out but we don't hook up every time so its not so much a booty call. I want something more from him though and I don't know how to get that.

-In Like


In Like,

Sounds like you let yourself become the booty call. Why would he hang out with you if he is already getting what he wants from you? It makes no sense. If he wanted what you wanted then he would try to hang out with you, no matter how many friends or how many plans he has. Guys make an effort when they truly start liking a girl and until you see an effort then I wouldn't get too attached. If you aren't seeing an effort from him then give him that same lack of effort and STOP BEING THE BOOTY CALL. When he calls at night to hang out then don't answer, or answer and tell him that if he really wants to hang out then you guys can hang out (insert time and place here) and set a date. No girl deserves to be strung along as a booty call by a guy that they are developing feelings for. If this continues then you should just stop talking to him, you will get hurt in the short run. You are missing great guys every day that you still try to make something happen with him.


-Mason Stanley